Kumar and Anjali got married two years back. Both of their families being very conservative, made it essential to follow all the steps relating to marriage strictly. In turn Kumar had received  varadakshina, famously known as “dowry” in the present times. Kumar, being a well educated boy, or rather a man, of 24 years, respects women and fights for their rights in arguments against his misogynist friends. He never understood how a man could hate a woman. Moreover, women in general. Today, accused of being cruel to Anjali, Kumar sits behind bars and thinks.

Misogynist are not born, but made. Don’t agree? Let me tell you how.

How many protests have you heard about where women have been declaring to be treated equally to men?  Equal status, equal opportunities and equal rights are the fundamental arguments on which feminism is based on. What is feminism if not an illogical advocacy demanding special treatment and protection by the law?

Equality before the law and equal protection of the law is provided by Article 14 Constitution of India as one of the fundamental rights for all the citizens. If the constitution of India aims to provide equality for all in front of the law, then why does the constitution itself provide for discrimination between the sexes? Take a look at Article 15(3) which empowers the State to make special provisions for the women and children. Yes, the judicial application of Article 14 works under the basis of intelligible differentia. The rule under intelligible differentia is that the like should be treated alike and the unlike should be treated differently. In various cases the judiciary has laid down the principles of how  intelligible differentia is to be applied.

Lets take a look at man and woman. By nature, the fact that man and woman are fundamentally different and want different things, makes it an exhausting task to bring welfare to both sexes. Women hold more power in domestic affairs than men while men are naturally designed to do strenuous tasks. It won’t be wrong to say that women also initiate  incidents of spousal violence. So, why aren’t there any laws protecting the men? When the husband slaps the wife, he’s considered to be violent, cruel  and thrown into jail. But when the wife slaps the husband, it’s considered to be  an innocuous act of self-liberation. Violence is violence either initiated by a man or a woman. Do we have to pass the slap of the female as just? Or is it “just” because it is already decided the female is weaker? Are we running around in circles here?

Protection of Women from Domestic Violence Act 2005, Dowry Prohibition Act 1961, Medical Termination of Pregnancy Act 1971 and section 498A of the Indian Penal Code are laws made specially for the welfare and protection of the women. While section 498A of the Indian Penal Code has been implemented to protect women from being harassed or being subjected to cruelty by her husband or his relatives, why is it that statistics show that more than half of the complaints lodged under this section are not genuine or relevant? The offence under this section is non-bailable as well as non-compoundable. Ever wondered about how many men and their relatives have been subjected to imprisonment or degradation by the police once a fallacious FIR have been lodged under this section?

Studies show that most women who file cases under section 498A are from urban backgrounds and live in the cities. These women have adequate facilities and financial support to live a prosperous life even after getting divorced. But the majority of women who are subjected to cruelty from their in-laws reside in the rural areas and are unaware of the women protection laws and the necessary legal remedies available. These women are more conservative and their ideologies prevent them from reporting such crimes. If the people who are meant to be utilizing them does not know that these laws exist, what is the use of their existence?

The legislature have made women protection laws considering the principle of intelligible differentia between both sexes and with regard to the atrocities committed against women in the past. The main idea behind the passing of Article 15(3) is to attempt in providing a more substantive equality to women considering the historical and structural disadvantages faced by them. These laws operate to eliminate the inequalities and subject more positive measures for their empowerment. While there are numerous laws passed for the protection of women, why do women  abuse and misuse these laws? Where is the justification for the innocent man against such women?

The Supreme Court of India has labelled the misuse of section 498A as “legal terrorism” and stated that, ‘The object is to strike at the root of dowry menace. But by misuse of the provision a new legal terrorism can be unleashed. The provision in intended to be used as a shield and not as assassin’s weapon. If [the] cry of “wolf” is made too often as a prank, assistance and protection may not be available when the actual wolf appears.’ in Sushil Kumar Vs. Union of India (UOI) and Ors.

In conclusion, coming to a more substantive concept of equality, as long as there are laws existing for the protection of a particular class of people, how can we reach equality between man and woman as preached by feminists? Doesn’t the mere existence of these “protection” laws label women as weak? Can equality among all be achieved in our society or is it just another utopian concept we are trying to reach?

I am working on several ways to go about it this time. The frail attempt of getting a new look is the first step I took in achieving my new found love for blogging. But I want to have a new approach. I look back to the very first few posts I wrote and I smile. I smile at the silly-ness and the amateur posts I wrote. Now now, I am not claiming to be a professional and expert today. But maybe I can do a better job. Writing daily has proven to be of help. Improves your language skills and it helps in keeping the “writers block” away. And like one of my favorite authors, Paulo Coelho, I will try to write at least a little bit of something everyday.

Also, I wonder if I should keep my old posts. I won’t be who I am if I don’t accept what I have been up to, right? So I will keep my old posts, for me to look back and smile at the memories which made me write them. For I am who I am today is ‘cos of what I have been up to.

For the past few months, writers block has been my excuse for being lazy. Yes, lazy. Lethargy and the new found love for the art of doing nothing has been ruling my life. My lack of prioritizing my blog and writing (not professionally but for my own amusement) blogs about social and whimsical encounters I get into on a daily basis has lead the blog to almost die out. A post a year doesn’t really count as blogging. No. So here is my new approach. Let me share it with you.

I plan to start blogging about more serious social issues at hand right now. Of course, it’ll be my opinion of it. But the question is, do I keep my ranting sessions going on too? The rants are instantaneous. They take few days to brew up in my mind and then just one fine day it all comes out. So I think, who I am demands a few of rants to be out and about every now and then, right?

So here goes, my very first ‘decent’ post in a couple of weeks and to a fresh new attempt at blogging again.

If you think we’d come over whenever you call us up and asks us to, then you’re mistaken. We have no such intentions. But thank you. Sure feels great saying “NO”.

Why do you think we’d wait desperately for you to make time for us? What makes you dumb fucks think we don’t have a life or we are unable to do anything without your blessing? Do we look disabled in any way? Maybe the change in our anatomy makes you think our brains leaked in front of our chest, eh? How insanely idiotic can you be?

Care for me to give you example of some of us who are doing great without your support, in that unimaginable emotional way, you say you give? What the fuck is this emotional support anyway? Who are you kidding? You think just cause you are “there” it helps us in any way? We do quite fine without you helping us get “stronger”.

And hell no no and no. If you say, “I don’t want to comment about that”, that’s a major turn off. What are you? Some kinda programmed software who can only process what the maker fed you and nothing beyond that? In that case, I would require a newer and better version.

If you think you can just utter some dull-witted “Sorry baby, I don’t wanna talk. I just wanna look at you.” bull crap, then be gone. Be gone to the furthest of all the deserts you can be to and get it going on with your hands. There are a ton more able minds out there. Much, much more tempting and desirable.

And to think, for even a tiny fraction of a second, that material things and greens can allure us. Oh, the horror! What do we look like? ATM machines who needs to be fed twenty four seven?

If you think you can go behind our backs, fuck around with the first thing you find with a hole in it and expect us to welcome you with arms wide open, you can very well go to effing hell. What do we look like? Cheshire cats with huge plastered permanent grins with a thinking disability?

To think we cannot live without you. What are you? Oxygen for our brains? Haemoglobin for our blood? We swear, we’ll cut off those testicles and spoon feed them to you in chicken soup.

If you expect us to say, “Oh baby, I cannot live without you.” please find the door which lead you in. It very well leads to the outside world far far away from us. Really. We’re very serious.

Wonder what made you enter in the first place. Was it your alluring sentimental rubbish? Excuse us for looking for someone worthy with new ideas and the ability to listen for a change.

To label us.To objectify us. To demean us. To insult our capabilities. Blasphemous!

No, we don’t need you. We really don’t need you in a single teeny weeny way you might think we do. But we might want you. We might want you, to hold your hand, to feel some human contact or maybe share a good conversation with, if you’re capable of providing such. Just know the difference. Theres a massive difference between needing and wanting.

I know I curse too much, but cursing is good for health as an apple is. It keeps the doctors away. You know you are mortal and a happy human being if you curse. Care to disagree, sure, why not? Rant yourself out, maybe call me names in the process. Teehee…

Going back to the journal, maybe I just would start a journal. Write letters to myself and post it to me too. See how creative or rather boring I can become. It’s a good thing to know who you are or who you are becoming. Becoming Batman would be fun. I seriously wanna become Batman and fight crime at night. Besides night time is much more productive than day. I tend to think so. In fact I tend to think way too much that it scares the world around me. Over-thinking is bad for health. But an apple is good. So is cursing. Once more, it keeps the fricken doctor away!

Selfish arses we are. We are born selfish. Whoever says being selfish is bad can eat a pile of rubber. Dare me to say that again. Pile of rubber! There. You decide what rubber is going to be. Back to being selfish. So what’s wrong in being selfish? Selfishness is a good virtue and I can show it to those who say they aren’t selfish how they are actually so damned selfish in what they do. Trust me, there’s nothing wrong in being selfish. After-all, all the things you do while you’re awake is cos you’re a selfish being. It makes you feel good. Doing a good deed for another makes you feel good. Maybe doing a bad thing do too. But that would depend on what your definition of bad would be eh? Let’s not get into that now. Times too short. Times too damned short to do all you want to do.

I swear I’m gonna literally eat anyones head if he comes and tries shows me how to live my own life. As it is, with obligations on hand, you don’t have the time to do all you want and then this sonofagun appears from nowhere and tries to preach about a better way to live. Better way to live, my arse. How would someone else know whats better for me? Or for you? God. Leave people alone. Let them be.

As long as you do your work, earn your money, do your thing, whatever, you should be happy. I don’t understand how people are so obsessed about everything else other than themselves. They just want to know everything. Amusing. Moreover, he who wants to guide someone else’s life is the one who you should be really put behind bars, or something. Shouldn’t I be the one whose to be decided where I want to be and what I want to be? So what if I want to be a wolf? New moon! Cheesy movie. Let’s not get into that either. Teenage love dramatics. Okay, I want to say something about it now. Who in the world goes into whatever that girl went into, in the movie, when her glow in the sun vampire boyfriend decided to leave her? And when did vampires started to glow in the sun? People are just ruining the mythical creatures with their fancy idea’s. Someone ought to make a law against that. But what to do. Intellectual property rights. *shrug* New idea’s are welcomed. Go ahead, make fun of all the mythical creatures that one day  we’d have werewolves who only crave for lollipops.

And now, spoiler alert ahead on the book, “The lost symbol” by Dan Brown. Don’t blame me later, I just warned you. Think the professor is dead now, the last few pages I read, he drowned. I have no idea how he’s gonna be alive later on. If he is going to be, Dan Brown, you are going to make me laugh. Like real bad. He just drowned for god sake. Let him rest for now. High time he died eh? He’s been running after talismans and secrets for the last three books. But it’s hard not to notice that he ends up with a hot chick in every book. Lucky arse.

Ah, I guess that’s it for tonight, time to get back to see if he comes back from the dead with a message. Toodles!

Kids, are exposed to these vulgar behaviour from their parents. A slap to make them understand that something is wrong. A spank to say he shouldn’t have gone somewhere, and that with a stick. Tsk. In this video, you can actually hear the woman ask him why he went to a certain place. If that’s the method you’re gonna use to make your child talk or be responsible for his actions, he ain’t resorting to any other method after he grows up. He doesn’t see any other way than to hurt or frighten someone to communicate. Cultivating fear looks like the best method to make someone obey or understand what they feel or how they feel about something.

Using fear is more of a restrictive method. Fear restricts people from looking beyond the bigger picture. You might see the bigger picture, but can you ever see beyond that big picture you have painted? Those who use fear to make people listen to them or obey are people who really doesn’t understand how the human mind works. Fear just produces more violence. You get them afraid, you expect them to behave. But in turn, you are just recruting a rebel. Someone who’s gonna say “enough” and retaliate one day. So my dear parents, think twice before you try hitting your child. Even if he misbehaves.

PS. I’m an adult too, but still… damn those adults!!!

Frank: Porn.

Liz: No, I mean if you were gonna go on a date with a woman, how would you want her to act?

Frank: Like she was in a porn.

*Note: Quoted from the famous television series 30 Rock.

No matter how old or young you are, they hold hands. And I don’t mean girl and boy. Or girl and girl, which is a usual sight back at home. But boy and boy, man and man. And it’s not even the whole hand. It’s PINKY to PINKY! Just like how I used to hold my Mom’s pinky when she used to take me to grade school.

But do grown men hold each others pinky when they take a walk? Or when they’re just having a talk? Can’t they just let go of that pinky? C’mon, you’re just standing there and talking. A UFO is not gonna be abducting your friend in a split second that you didn’t know what happened with that flash of light. Hell, feel free to kick whosoevers privates if they’re trying to pull your friend away from you.

I don’t have anything against homosexuals. But seriously, if you’re not homosexual and you just love to hold your male-friends pinky while you walk, that ain’t any good. It’s just not appealing. Russell Peters was right, two grown up men, holding hands, walking along the beach, trying to pick-up a girl is  definitely the wrong combination. Straight men just don’t hold hands!